SHOULD I ?
What a question. Fortunetellers probably get tired of hearing it asked of them, but to answer the question on your own is always such a struggle.
The “Should I?” question is never really just one question. Because, to answer it, you have to answer (1) a question about the value of the target to be affected, and then (2) answer another question about your obligation to take, or not to take, the action being considered.
EXAMPLES
For instance: “Should I feed the kids?” requires you to make one judgment about if the kids are deserving to be fed, and it also forces you to make a decision about what if any, is your obligation to feed them.
Here’s another one:
“Should I post something on my class message board?” To answer that question, you have to first make a judgment about if the people reading the message board deserve to know about you or your thoughts. Then, you also have to make a judgment about what obligation, if any, do you have to participate and share anything.
Determining if the target deserves the action being considered, and then being at peace about whether to carry out the planned action, is tough stuff. (People have been known to quickly change channels when a charity telethon broadcast comes on the television, or to quickly scoot by the Christmas bell-ringers, all to avoid confronting the agony of the “Should I ?” question).
How odd, that two little words should make us struggle with our wants and desires, and force us to make huge judgments about how deserving our target is, and about what our perceived obligation, if any, is.
APPLICATIONS
The judgements forced by the “Should I?” question, are the two fundamental components of motivation. It is basic Marketing for advertisers to try and take the burden of answering those two little questions away from you. Advertisements will usually tell you (1) how highly valued their product is, or (2) how much you deserve to have their product, or both. Successful advertising aims to take all of the struggle out of answering the “Should I?” question. They seek to answer it for you. (And , *cough, cough,* several large religions offer to do fundamentally the same thing by removing the burden to think, and to make ones own judgements, from the practitioner.)
Are morals and ethics even important today?
The “Should I?” question is nearly impossible to answer, without them. The question itself is moral and ethical at its core because it forces us to evaluate our relationship to others, and it forces us to evaluate our relationship to our conscience, in two little words, every time we answer it.
The question also has a psychological component. If you never have a problem with the first question, and you say to yourself: “Whatever I want, is what I’m going to do” then you are a sociopath, in that you are placing your wants and desires above anyone or anything else. On the other hand, if you never have a problem with the second question, then you are a psychopath, in that you have no conscience, and therefore no fear of authority, and no fear of punishment.
There is no easy way out. The “Should I?” question does not allow for a simple Ben Franklin close, where you list all of the things opposed or in favor of a proposal on paper, and then choose the side with the longest list. No. Because the judgments necessary to answer the question “Should I?” are ultimately judgements about yourself, your place in the universe, your relationship to your own conscience.
The actions you take, or don’t take, are reflections of what you really think; of how you really value yourself, and your real relationship to others, and to God.
People speak of a Final Judgement by an exterior personality in the afterlife. But in reality, all of the judgements have already been made. You make them yourself, every time you answer the “Should I?” question.
All of that, is packed into two tiny little words we ask ourselves daily. “Should I ________?”
Isn’t Free Will a wonderful thing?
(c) RLM
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